The movement
The Mending Place™
A place for women who got out, women who are getting out, and women who are still working out whether they can. It is private, it costs nothing, and nobody sees who walks in.
Before you read on
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If you are wondering whether you belong here
It does not have to
leave a mark to count.
Most women who need this place would never use the word abuse about their own house. See if any of it sounds like yours.
He has never hit you, but you measure every sentence before you say it.
You have your own job and no idea what is in the account.
Your phone is checked. Your location is known. Somebody calls that love.
The people who used to call stopped calling, and you know why.
You have been told you are too sensitive so many times that you stopped saying anything.
It has been physical. Once, or more than once, or so many times you lost count.
Lisa lived every one of those lines before she wrote a word about any of them. That is the only qualification anybody here has, and it is the only one that gets asked for.
What happens
One hour, once a week,
on a call nobody can see into.
Lisa hosts it on Zoom. Women talk, or they do not. Some keep their camera off the whole time and that is completely normal here. There is no curriculum, no homework, and no point at which somebody asks you to tell the room what happened to you.
What it is
- Free. There is no paid tier and no upsell coming.
- Camera optional, always. First names only if you want.
- An hour, once a week, same time. Come to one, come to all of them, disappear for a month.
- Hosted by a survivor, not a therapist. Lisa is careful about the difference.
What it is not
- Not therapy, and not a substitute for it.
- Not a crisis line. If tonight is dangerous, the numbers are at the bottom of this page.
- Not recorded. Ever. Nothing from the call is posted anywhere.
- Not a place you have to have left to attend.
Not running yet
Lisa is setting the night now. Put your name in below and you will know the day and time before the first circle meets. No cost, and nothing arrives in the meantime except that one email.
Come in
There is no cost
and no test.
You do not have to have left. You do not have to call it abuse. You do not have to be ready to talk. You can read and say nothing for as long as you want.
Who will know
- Lisa. That is the whole list. There is no member directory, no public list, and nothing you join that shows up on your social media.
- Nobody is added to anything else. Your details are not sold, rented or shared, and there is an unsubscribe link on every email she sends.
- You can be deleted, no reason needed. Email lisa@lisaturman.com and ask. It is done, not discussed.
- Use whatever name you want. First name, middle name, a name you made up. Nobody checks.
Not ready to be on a call with anyone? Start with Empowerment & Support. It comes by email and asks nothing of you.
Where it stands
Being built in stages,
out loud.
Nothing here is further along than it says it is. That matters when the people reading have been promised things before.
- 01Now
A safe place to land
A community and healing space for survivors, with merch that carries the message. The gold butterfly on it is the point: the same thing, after. Free to join, no performance required, no timeline you're supposed to be on.
- 02Next
Transitional housing
Leaving is only step one. The gap between getting out and getting steady is where most women get pushed back. Lisa is building toward housing that covers it.
- 03The goal
A nonprofit built to serve survivors
The long-term vision, and where all of this is pointed. One step at a time.
The nonprofit and the housing are the goal, not a service that exists today. When that changes, this page changes.
If you came here to help
Survivors, artists and people with something to give keep asking Lisa the same question. Here is the answer.
Performances, funding, professional time, a skill, a room. The housing and the nonprofit get built out of exactly this. Tell her what you have and she will tell you where it fits.
If you need help right now
The Mending Place is a community, not a crisis service. If you are in danger, call 911. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, free and open all day and night, or text START to 88788.
Calls and texts to the hotline do not appear on this site's records. They may appear on a phone bill.